The prestigious “New York” Magazine published an article entitled: “Rise of the Daddies: A New (and Sexy) Gay Niche.” For those who may not know: in the gay world – we love to label and categorize everyone and everything. According to the gay classification system, a daddy is an older homosexual male who usually conforms to these physical and behavioral parameters: larger body, muscular, hairy, mature, dominate, and aggressive. Although, before I jumped into the gay scene, I already knew some gay lingo, such as top and bottom, but the other nuances of gay-speak I was still incredibly naive. Only, that speck of innocence was quickly swept away when I entered my first gay bar and was descended upon by a hoard of older gay men all calling me a “twink.” Again, as an aside, a twink is a younger gay male that oftentimes has the opposite attributes of a daddy. Here is what “New York” Magazine had to say:
“But like everything else in our culture, where even grumpy cats become memes and multiply, it seems the gay daddies are moving beyond leather land, especially for a new generation of twenty-something gays. An informal poll of men reveals that there seems to be an uptick of younger men who are interested in guys of my 'seasoned” age bracket.'”
And, I completely concur. Back in the late-1980s and early 90s, many of the older gay men in San Francisco had been killed off in the 80s during the height of the AIDS crisis. Most that survived were infected, and still exhibited the ravages of the diseases. To us younger guys, there were like lepers. We tended to huddle into protective groups of age-similar men. As part of our initiation, we normally got broken-in by a wealthy older man, in their 40s or early-50s, who somehow was able to remain above the slaughter. Most of the time, they were guys who just came of age, as the AIDS era began. But, with these men, there was a certain security, as they were more experienced and knowledgeable about the culture you were about to give your life to.
Today, as I have written, http://www.josephsciambra.com/2013/06/gay-children-and-porn-factor.html children at a younger and younger age are giving-into their sexual confusion, often supported by uninformed and equally dysfunctional parents, and well-intentioned, but ignorant friends, who believe that somehow they were born gay. Then, sometimes coming from broken homes, with absent mothers, and ineffectual fathers, go seeking out male role models in the homosexual community. There, awaiting them, often with self-centered and purely sexual motives, are a large group of men who are highly attracted to the younger crop of recruits. This is most evident in the plethora of gay internet dating sites which cater to daddies, silver-foxes, bears and their admirers. Additionally, the most popular gay porn titles are those that include some daddy-son tableau. For this reason, older gay porn stars are very much in demand. When I was doing it: you were pretty much washed-up by your mid-20s. This is all a sad statement on our times. Because, these children are in no way gay: but, simply looking for their fathers.