This week, former GOP VP candidate Paul Ryan said he now supports the right of same-sex couples to adopt children. Representative Ryan added that he still opposes gay marriage, however.
This was such sad news. I was once a big fan of Ryan. He was so unashamedly Catholic: orthodox, out-spoken, a proud family-man; now, he is just another Washington politician. But, in addition, I do not understand his logic here: why allow gay adoption, but not marriage? In my thinking, you must have both or neither. By letting same-sex couples adopt, the government is creating an artificial family; then, you must also grant these same couples the “right” to marry.
Coming from the all male culture of the Castro, I can testify that a male-only family is no place to nurture any child; I believe the same would pertain to lesbian couples. From my experience, the over-saturation of testosterone in the male-gay community creates a unique social fabric. There is a palpable hyper-emphasis on the sexualization of everything: films, television, literature. There is also a restlessness that pervades. Associations are often transitory. The hunt is always on. My contention has remained that the female is essential to the family, for women temper the bravado of the male. They domesticate the man.
Children raised in such environments are never given the full realization of what makes the male and female dynamic work. Although, the phenomena of same sex couples raising children was still somewhat rare in the 1990s, nevertheless, I knew a few men and women who had “parents” of the same-sex. For the most part, they were kind and considerate people, but often overly connected to the gay community. They seemed singular in their existence; belonging to neither the gay nor straight worlds. They were usually the most violently defensive about the “rights” of homosexuals, as any attack on the gay community was perceived as a criticism of themselves and or their childhood. They were all fully indoctrinated. I do not think they ever could have made their own decisions regarding the merits or drawbacks of the gay lifestyle.
Lastly, we should not allow people who are deeply psychologically wounded to raise otherwise healthy kids. And, the same goes for heterosexuals who are mentally unfit to care for a child they themselves give birth to; or want to adopt. I know that this is controversial, but homosexuality is not a sound derivation; it essentially stems from early childhood trauma and then is transferred into adulthood. Sadly, many men and women have been deceived into accepting this condition, and remain within it for the rest of their lives. The majority come to think that they were just born that way. No government will take the pain of the past away. And no man-made family will ever create any lasting happiness. For, it is all an illusion.