What, then, are homosexual persons to do who seek to follow the Lord? Fundamentally, they are called to enact the will of God in their life by joining whatever sufferings and difficulties they experience in virtue of their condition to the sacrifice of the Lord's Cross. That Cross, for the believer, is a fruitful sacrifice since from that death come life and redemption. While any call to carry the cross or to understand a Christian's suffering in this way will predictably be met with bitter ridicule by some, it should be remembered that this is the way to eternal life for all who follow Christ.” Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith “Letter to the Bishops of the Catholic Church on the Pastoral Care of Homosexual Persons.”
What the Catholic Church has called all men and women who suffer from same-sex attraction to is a form of extreme sacrifice: a complete renunciation of the self, an abandonment of personal desires, and a radical form of humility requiring a total openness which reveals all to Our Lord Jesus Christ. This is the antithesis of the gay mentality which reaches its sacramental high point with the “coming-out” ritual: a statement of the personal will that, despite what the gay apologists argue, is a decision; it is not an inescapable impulse brought on by the forces of biology or genetics, but a reaction to a set of circumstances, most of which are denied. As the Church so rightly teaches, this succumbing to gayness emerges from a place of disorder: through the muddled memories of childhood and adolescence. Indefinable, they become the impetus for everything else - while remaining shoved to the hidden places of the brain. Becoming satisfied reins all that we do; for this reason, the mere notion of throwing it aside seems absurd. For, who are we without our own particular motivations; without our orientation; without being gay? Yet, in taking us away from that - the Church wants to give us back to ourselves - because, when we embrace homosexuality we cease to be who we were meant to be - as we become a thing: a gay man or a lesbian woman; when, in reality, we are so very much more. In the Cross, suddenly all things start to make sense: the confusion and horror of our early years, the desperation we felt, and the initial comfort found in succumbing to our desires; only, through it all - we continued to suffer. In embracing the Cross - we no longer have to endure it alone, but with the One who was always with us.